Guest Do's & Don'ts

I found this great list in Bride's magazine on my way back from my bachelorette party & couples shower in Minnesota! It was eye opening for me being that it's wedding season in our lives right now..... so I thought I'd share.

• DO RSVP by the Deadline, even if you already told the bride that you'd definitely be there. (RSVPs are the hardest thing to get out of people lately....from my experience & others)
• DON'T call the Bride the day of the wedding for ANY reason.
• DO stay upbeat when you talk to the Bride during the months before the big day. She wants to hear that you are excited, not that you have to rearrange your work schedule or can't afford a hotel.
• DON'T wear white OR cream. Enough Said.
• DO book your hotel and airfare early. Many couples include logistical details (like where to stay) on their web sites, along with the name of whom to contact with questions - if not the couple, then a parent or a member of the bridal party. (We don't have a contact person, but I like the concept)
• DON'T bring a gift to the wedding - it might get lost or damaged. The couple will have enough to lug home already. (I think for some people the concept of this is hard because they have been used to it in the past... but makes most sense for the couple)
• DO make a point of greeting the bride & groom. They'll have people around them all night, so it's okay to wait - not hover nearby. (Put down your drink before going for the big hug).
• DON'T show up late to the ceremony or reception, as weddings tend to run on an invisible - but tight - time line. (I'm at fault for doing this... but it was due to getting lost... no excuses leave early. )
• DO help get the party started. That means being one of the first people to hit the dance floor. (I've never had a problem doing this with friends).
• DON'T change your table at the reception. You risk upsetting the seating plans delicate balance.
• DO let the DJ do his job, which means not bugging him with requests - the couple have probably labored over the playlist and have a specific idea about the music they want.
• DON'T take the centerpieces home unless you're told you can. They might be earmarked for charity - or the bride's relatives.
• DO send any photos you take to the couple ASAP - they'll be grateful to hae some shots to show around.
• DO follow up with the newlyweds if you've sent a gift but haven't received a thank-you note within three months.